posted 16th May 2023
The phrase 'drama queen' has really not done wonders for our mental health. So high is the stigma around being 'melodramatic', that we're often inclined to dismiss our own problems as 'meaningless' or not worthy of professional intervention. We don't want to be seen to be making a fuss out of nothing.
But you don't need to be in crisis to seek therapy. In fact, getting help before that point is crucial - and totally normal. Currently, in the UK, an estimated one in eight adults (12.1%) receive some form of mental health treatment, according to the Mental Health Foundation. Yet many of us still don't realise that there is no problem too small for therapy.
You don't need to have a specific issue, a diagnosis or be completely overwhelmed to qualify for help. Jordan Vyas-Lee, a psychotherapist and co-founder of the mental health care clinic Kove, believes that therapy can be a powerful tool for everyone, no matter where you are on your mental health journey.
Below, he shares the most common therapy misconceptions which can prevent people from seeking help and offers her advice:
Myth 1: 'Everyone struggles sometimes, and they cope.'
'Thinking like this is a sign of mental health impostor syndrome,' Jordan explains. 'You may believe that your problem isn't as bad as someone you know, so you don't need to seek help.' But thinking like this is counterproductive. Life isn't a competition, and we all cope with situations differently, so try to avoid comparing yourself to others.
It is also possible that the people around you are dealing with their problems in private, in a way that they haven't shared with you. 'Some people use unhealthy coping strategies, such as excessive drinking or drug use, to avoid confronting their issues,' Jordan adds. 'This can make it seem like they are doing fine to the outside world.'
Myth 2: 'My problems aren't big or worthy enough.'
If you are struggling with something, it's valid because it impacts you and your daily life. 'No problem is too small to see a therapist,' Jordan says. 'If something has been bothering you, maybe even for months or years, it's worth speaking to someone to move forward.' A problem that might seem small can fester and become bigger in the future if it's ignored. But you don't actually need to have a specific problem to be able to speak to a therapist.
'You might want support working through a transition in your life. For example, getting a new job, moving home, or starting a new relationship,' Jordan says. 'Some people also visit a therapist to maintain their mental health and identify potential issues early. One type of therapy that can be useful for this is counselling.' Getting therapy for a little extra support and help, even if you are unsure about why is also completely fine.
Myth 3: 'My mental health isn't that bad.'
All struggles, regardless of how big or small, are entirely valid. 'No matter how they may feel to you, therapy is likely to benefit you in improving things,' Jordan explains. 'Moreover, there are often more issues and psychological barriers than the ones you notice. Therapy helps to shine a light on these too.'
