I never realised how much I was keeping to myself until I started talking to you Andy. My partner has always said that I keep everything in, and I guess she's right! I'm feeling oddly much lighter, and that chatter in my head that I talked about is almost completely gone - I've become good at recognising it and using the techniques we discussed to out-talk it. I've not relied on my G.P for much, though even though I couldn't see you through the NHS, her referral to you has been more than worth it - thank you Andy.
I'm the happiest I have ever been, and I know only too well that there's a challenging road ahead, though I'm set-up for it and ready to take it on! You told me right from the start that unless I accepted myself, no-one else was going to. I'm still working on it, and I'm seeing the difference it's making too. I know you're part of a whole team that's supporting me through this, though I wanted to say thank you for everything you have helped me with so far.
Being able to recognise that my behaviour wasn't normal has been such a learning curve for me. Of course I understood that I wasn't feel well, though I don't think I would have taken responsibility for changing it - I wanted it to happen to me, rather than me helping it out! I actually feel quite amazing, and waking up without the worry on how bad the day would be, is such a relief for me. You have helped me far more than you would ever imagine Andy - thank you so much.
My biggest test has been passed with flying colours! The nurse couldn't quite believe how calm I was, and actually asked me if the Doctor had prescribed a valium for me! I have to say that there was still a shade of nervousness, though nothing that would have stopped me going ahead with it. It's unbelievable that I've let myself go through my adult life until now with sheer panic around needles. Thanks Andy - you really have made a difference.
Your commitment to my recovery has been more than I could have ever expected. I'm well on the road to handling my demons, and I know this will probably be a life-time of focus and attention to ensure it doesn't take over me again. I've come across many therapists throughout my life, and you stand out as one of the most down-to-earth and practical amongst them - you have made a huge difference in my life Andy, and it's up to me to continue with the structure we worked on.
I remember our first telephone conversation and how anxious/embarrassed I was, though I needn't have been. Even just speaking with you on the phone I could tell that nothing was phasing you. My G.P had made the referral as you know, and after trying the usual medications I felt that therapy was going to be my last chance at getting something that resembled a healthy sex life back on track. I'm beyond thankful for everything you have helped me with, and I'm sure it's such a cliche, though I feel more complete, probably more of a man! I would say to any guys out there that are suffering because they're too embarrassed or worried, to go seek help - you don't have to accept that your sex life is over
My life was actually pretty damn awful for going on 4 years, and trying to get help had been a complete nightmare! When I eventually got a referral to you, I thought that it was all too late, and I would forever be governed by these panic attacks. It's so wonderful to be able to write this to you, and know that I've been without any extreme panic for coming up to 7 months. You have worked wonders for me, and I rave about you always! You'll also be pleased to know that I've completed all my medication, so am doing this all by myself.
Your honesty and compassion over the last few months have lifted me out of that dark hole I was sitting in. It has been nice to be able to laugh, and not feel guilty. Of course, I still miss her terribly, and I know I always will, though I have an inner strength that was void since she died. Thank you for the humour Andy, it's been so good getting to know you a little.
Ever since a child I remember being the kid who would prefer to watch TV and read books, rather than go out and play with friends. And, as an adult I've preferred my own company over socialising, which has removed me from the small group of friends that I had. Having had therapy with you Andy I now realise how I blamed others' for 'leaving me out', though I would create these situations to give me exactly what I thought I wanted...to be alone. Having faced these issues with you it is quite incredible how much more confident I feel about myself, and have started putting a value on my self-esteem, which was totally lacking. You'll be pleased to know that I've re-connected with a few friends, and have already been out for meals and drinks - onwards and upwards! Thank you Andy.
You may remember me telling you about the series 'Dexter', and how he refers to his manic side of his personality as a 'Dark Passenger'. I felt like that for so many years, I knew there could be times when everything would be okay, though I always held onto the worry of the next epsiode of depression, it was so incredibly tiring. Well, here I am almost 12 months past my last appointment with you, and I can confirm that I have had the most amazing time - nothing special, just being able to wake-up without that feeling of dread hanging over me. After all the therapy I've taken part in over the years, those 4 months in session with you has made a difference, way beyond what I could have expected or even imagined. It doesn't feel enough to say thank you, though I want you to know that you have helped give me back my life.
I was thinking about our last session, and you said that I'm seeking other peoples' acceptance, though had still to accept myself. Your words really did stay with me, and you're quite right - how can I expect people to accept me if I'm not willing to do the same? I've woken up with a new approach, and already feelings of confidence are coming to the surface. I really do just want to blend in, though my attitude has been making me stand out! Thank you for having the patience to work with me Andy.
I remember not that long ago waking up in the morning, and almost wondering when I would feel the anxiety of my next panic attack - not a pleasant way to start each day. I'm just past 12 months out of therapy with you, and feel so much more in control and haven't had a panic attack in over 18 months. I'm so so grateful for being referred to you and all that you have done to help me manage myself more effectively. The difference this is making in my life is far beyond being able to hold down a job, it's kept my relationship together and I'm more active in my family, and I have a social life...at last!
It's quite difficult to put into words how much of difference my sessions with you have made to me, and of course my family. I'm participating in their lives for the first time in several years - my wife said it's like getting her husband back! I have so much to be thankful for, and getting to meet you is right at the top of my list Andy. I'll continue working on the areas we discussed, and I'm determined to not let my life slip away from me again
It's been almost 5 years since my stomach pain first reared its ugly head, and it's been a constant in my life daily ever since. You really were my last hope after being referred to you by my consultant at St. Woolos, so I had all my eggs in one basket! The relief even after the second session with you brought tears to my eyes, and I felt more relaxed and out of pain than I can last remember. As the sessions moved on I became more and more confident that I had this in control, and the worry that it would return was much less - I'm still fighting with that a little. I must thank you for your ability and kindness, and understanding - thank you.
My referral to you from Dr Llewellyn felt like my absolute last hope. Since being diagnosed with CFS and understanding what I've been living with for the past 5 years helped somewhat, though it didn't change how I was feeling. With your help Andy I have grasped hold of the concept that I can manage this, and even though it may be part of the rest of my life, it doesn't have to be my whole life - sounding a little like you! I'm waking up with more energy and the days when I feel less inclined to get out of bed I remember our sessions, and make a little more effort. Speaking with someone like you that understood my condition helped greatly and I thank you for being so understanding and direct when needed.
I recall watching a series called 'Dexter', and he referred to his obsession as his 'dark passenger', this has been such a clear description to how I felt about my anxiety and depression. I must say, it was an unwanted passenger! Over the last few weeks I have felt so light (emotionally), and the worries that I carried around like a bad smell have completely vanished - I understand that I may experience negative feelings again, though knowing that it doesn't have to be that way is one big step forward for me. I don't say this lightly Andy, though you've been an absolute life-saver for me.
Life has been a real struggle since the car accident, and trying to put it out of mind was almost impossible. Almost evey area of my life was affected, sleep, my marriage, work, the list goes on. Getting to therapy was such an important step, and I haven't looked back since. Working with you has shown me that I can move forward, and life doesn't have to be about the past. I'll be forever thankful Andy.
I started writing this to you, and felt a little bit sad over how long it took me to find the strength to move on. I'm overall happy though, and the most important thing is not to regret - live life for the now, Andy! My sessions with you helped me realise what I already knew...the relationship was over a long time ago. I actually feel like my life holds so many possibilities, something that I never considered previously. Thank you for helping me get to this point.
I was surprised at how difficult it has been to find a therapist that fully understood my Bipolar disorder, so when my Doctor referred me to you, I was doubtful that you'd be able to help. From the first chat we had on the telephone, I could tell that your approach would be different, it was actually quite refreshing. I've seen a remarked difference in my moods, and am feeling far more confident about dealing with future episodes. I understand that there's still work to do, though I wanted to let you know how happy I am to have found you.
I accepted a long time ago that my family set-up is unconventional, though hadn't realised that I (in your words Andy) 'normalised' their and my behaviour. My sessions with you, gave me more than insight into why I act the way I do - I now understand that I can live a different life to the one I grew up in. I know longer feel that I need to end my relationships with them, just look after myself and let them look after their stuff! Thank you Andy
It's been a real tough few years, and looking back I wonder how I managed to hold down my job. I felt an almost immediate confidence in you Andy, right from the first time we chatted on the phone. I did find those first couple of sessions particularly difficult, and I almost didn't come back (an old trait of mine - 'giving in'). Life is so different for me now, I don't go looking for things to make me anxious, and I'm far more relaxed about everyday stresses - I just deal with them. I have so much to thank you for
By the time I had come to see you, so many horrible things had already happened, and I kept finding myself repeating the same routine - forgiving and going back. Your support helped me to make a decision that I've been frightened of for over 10 years. I still do have those moments when I wonder if I should go back to my marriage, and then I think about our chats, and all I learnt about myself. I'm gradually building back my confidence, and have started working part-time to fit in the school run - it all seems to be coming together. Thank you so so much.
I've heard other people say that they've felt their depression lift from them, and I could only hope that I would get to this place. I've tried therapy several times over my adult life, and really made no progress, or at least, very little. After the third session with you I started to feel so different, and of course then I worried that it may just go away! I can happily report that it hasn't, and I notice a positive difference each day. I'm spening more time with my family, and joined a book club, which I'm loving. Thank you for being the person that helped me Andy - always grateful.
I'm just about to celebrate my 3rd anniversary of being sober...big up me! Before I got to see you Andy I really was spinning out of control, of course I wasn't so aware of it, though my wife and family were so concerned. I did need to take stock of my life, and you helped me to achieve that. Your honesty was what I needed, and it did give me a wake-up call to the immediate danger I was putting myself in. The early days were a struggle, and there are occasions still when I'm close to breaking my sobriety. Thank you for all and everything you have done for me.
Thank you for making me feel at ease Andy, and helping to minimise my embarassment. In fact, that's what held me back from seeking help earlier - worried about what someone may think of me. After the first few sessions my sexual anxiety was in far more control, and my erection just sorted itself out! I really could kick myself for waiting this long, though I guess the important thing is that I'm dealing with it right now.
It's been a tough experience for me, and there were times that I thought I would be better off not dealing with the pain and hurt. I'm so glad that I found the courage to continue, and you helped me so much with that Andy - such kindness and support made a difference. I'm looking forward and planning some exciting activities over the next few months, something I've been hiding from over the years. Thank you again Andy.
I took quite a bit of nerve to make the appointment with you; after that telephone chat we had on the phone I felt so much better. We were both so anxious coming into the first session, though quickly you helped us settle in. I have to say it was challenging at times, and the therapy brought up many unspoken issues. We both agreed to therapy knowing that it may not repair our relationship, and the solution may be to find a way to separate. We're near enough 4 months past our last session with you, and our relationship is stronger than ever. We talk with each other more, and our openess with how we feel is making such a difference. Thank you from both of us.
I was truly at my last hope when I contacted you, and probably put way too much emphasis on you being able to 'fix' me. I had used drugs for almost 8 years, and didn't really see it as a problem, though it was was. Working with you has given me a structure and routine to help me get through each day, and although some days are still tough, I'm getting more good ones. My life is getting back on track, and I'm finding more enjoyment in socialising, and rediscovered my passion for painting. I have so much to thank you for - THANK YOU!
I sat down to write this to you, and realised how much I've changed in these past 8 months. Not getting out of bed; taking time off work; not seeing family and friends...basically living life solo. My energy has increased to the point that I've started exercising again, and joined a Zumba class! I'm waking up in the morning feeling as if I've slept, and am raring to go, mostly. Between you and Dr. Llewellyn I have my life back in order. Thank you to you both.
I've been reading a few of your testimonials, and am not sure what else I can add to the wonderful comments. I would like to say how grateful I am that you took the time to fully understand my story, and more importantly, not let me get-away with excuses and poor behaviour! I'm well on the way to recovery and can only imagine good things to come.
I've been in and out of therapy thoughout my adult life, and until meeting you Andy, I haven't found someone who took the time to understand me, and I guess just listen. Therapy has never been about stopping my behaviour, it's more on how I can manage the times that feel 'out-of-control'. I feel so much safer socilaising since my sessions started, and have a made a few new friends along the way. If nothing else, I have a confidence in myself that wasn't there before.
After the first session I came away feeling more at ease. It was the first time someone was able to describe how I was feeling, and the impact anxiety was having on my life - I felt immediately lighter. My life looks so different right now, I'm doing more and wanting to be around friends and family. I can only see it getting better.
Your support has been second to none. I was just a little unsure on how you'd be able to help me, though I'm feeling much more controlled with my emotions. Of course, I still have moments when my mum's passing hits me, and I'm sure that will be the case for some time. I'm just happy that my friend suggested that I contact you - thank you so much Andy.
As you know it was a real struggle for me to even make a booking, and then a few attempts at putting it off. In truth, it was pretty difficult at times and there was more than one occasion that I felt it wasn't worth the pain and tears. I'm about 3 months out of therapy, and have never felt so clear headed and happy. I still find myself drifting back to old thoughts, though they just don't make me feel bad about myself any longer. I'm a stronger person, and now focus on me right now and not my past.
I lived with anxiety for most of my adult life, and until a year ago when I met you Andy, I thought that's how everyone was dealing with stress and life upsets. My life looks the same now, though I feel so different. I'm more relaxed and I don't react to potential stressful situations with fear and worry any longer. I find myself noticing signs when my stress levels start to rise, and I do something about it straight away. I'm so grateful for all of your help - have a wonderful Xmas.
I'm sure you get to hear it often Andy, though I'm so incredibly grateful for your help, and getting me to a point where I can look forward and see a life ahead of me. I've made connections and friendships with many women and men over the years who also battled with anorexia, so I can fully understand the pain and loss that comes with such an awful illness. Having you there has been the greatest support, and knowing that I was in safe hands gave me the courage to face up to my traumas - thank you, thank you.
With many years of not really understanding why I felt so nervous, and choosing to avoid being around people instead of enjoying socialising, I'm now at a point where I feel in control. I think after such a long a time I let it become 'normal' for me, and I didn't really question that life could be different. If it wasn't for my wife prompting me to look for help, I think I probably would be stuck in that same cycle today. I wanted to take this opportunity to thank you for keeping me on track, and showing me that what I thought was normal, was actually far from it!
There are some people that fit into their careers almost like it was always meant to be that way, and thankfully Andy, you are one of them. I've gained so much from our sessions and have experienced such a sense of release over the past few months. It is actually quite emotional for me to write this to you, though I want you to know what an impact you have had in getting me to this this place where I feel happy to be alive. With such gratefulness to you Andy.
From all of us Andy, we want to thank you for being our 'guiding light', and finding that common ground that I talked about on the phone. My daughter seems to have gotten herself a new lease of life, which is good for us all! We're still working on many of the areas you raised and look forward to a Christmas without family trauma - I say with hope!
Didn't ever think that I'd get back to feeling this way, expecially after spending years in limbo, and not knowing where to find help. Dr. Peters said you'd be able to help, and that you did! I know I've already said it Andy, though just wanted to send this card to say what a difference you've made in my life.
Thank you for my one year sober card Andy, I was surprised that you would remember! Life has been so different since making the decision to live without alcohol. It's a cliche, but I'm still getting through each day, a day at a time. I use the strategies you taught me on a daily basis - I have them on a post-it-note on the fridge! You have helped me change my life, and probably saved it. Thank you doesn't seem enough, but it is said from a place of honesty and appreciation.
Thank you for everything Andy. I'm actually feeling tearful writing this to you - I'm feeling in control of my own body, the first time in three years. I'm noticeably more confident and feel full of life. Thank you doesn't seem like enough, so I've sent you some chocolates too!!
To say I was embarrassed making that first call to you doesn't go anywhere near how I felt! By the time I put the phone down I was already feeling relieved to have made the call. My doctor said that you were easy to talk too and would put me at ease - I should have listened to her from the start. You made it all very normal, and nothing at all to shy away from. It's all working down there, and most important I'm more confident than I have been in quite some time.
This all seems to early to thank you, but I feel a mention is needed around how appreciative I am for being there for me - small steps. Since making my decision there have been few people who have truly accepted me, and you are clearly one of them. Lots more work to do I know, though thank you.
Andy, I trust this finds you well. Please accept my greatest thanks for helping me come to terms with the death of my partner. I know life will be different, but you have taught me that I do still have a life to live. Your understanding and patience has been a blessing. Thank you again.
My experience with seeing you has been completely different to previous Therapists I have been with. It was so easy to share my inner-most feelings with you, and I thank you for the patience you afforded me.