How we choose to see ourselves is always a choice. Where we choose to see ourselves from is an important choice we make. I know that I'm not the psychologically constructed identity I've built over time for myself and you aren't the idea of who I think you are either. We're more than those constructions. Who I am, and who you are, came before either of those formations.
I choose to see myself as spirit having a human experience. This makes a difference beyond any measure. When I see myself from here, I'm not afraid. I'm more loving. I'm more trusting. I'm more compassionate of myself and others. In contrast my ego identity is small and limited and has many fears, insecurities and doubts. My light is obscured and dimmed. So this is not where I would want to choose to see myself from.
I heard this recently, although I'm not sure who the quote is from: 'The only thing that stands between me and you, is only my idea of you'. How very apt. If we put aside all the ideas we have of ourselves, of others, of the world , and we went back to the beginning- then we would have a huge united world filled with love, wouldn't we? The kind of love that would light up the sky! I'm reminded of a beautiful quote from Hafiz that I'll end this post with: "Even after all this time, the Sun never says to the Earth, you owe me. Look what happens with a love like that? It lights the whole sky".