Don't run yourself ragged being kind to others if you aren't being kind to yourself. Kindness is great! Good deeds are, well, good! But heed this warning: before you race out to bake cookies for your mum or volunteer in an animal shelter, there's something pretty urgent you need to do first. And that, as trite as it sounds, is to be kind to yourself.
Too many of us run ourselves ragged trying to be the most wholesome, generous, and lovely person around, picking up the bulk of emotional and domestic labour all in an effort to be 'nice', well-liked, and to try to rid ourselves of the overwhelming guilt of being a world-destroying human creating garbage and doing garbage things. In the midst of all that rushing around, we forget about ourselves and leave our wellbeing on the backburner. Or worse, we berate ourselves for not doing more, feeling increasingly shit about ourselves no matter what kindness we extend.